Friday, November 17, 2006
A poem in a wedding Invitation
Stranger were we once
in a gentle smile came a bunce
with smile We decided to go miles
As we engaged to lit our lives
and hold our hands as husband and wife
For the decades to come and go
ours souls are to become one and glow
With each other to always depend
as a partner, a lover, a friend
trashing difficulties and transcend
We share our lives together
to love and care beyond tether
We are at best of our zest
to plead your presence and bless
to make this fest
and our life a blest
in a gentle smile came a bunce
with smile We decided to go miles
As we engaged to lit our lives
and hold our hands as husband and wife
For the decades to come and go
ours souls are to become one and glow
With each other to always depend
as a partner, a lover, a friend
trashing difficulties and transcend
We share our lives together
to love and care beyond tether
We are at best of our zest
to plead your presence and bless
to make this fest
and our life a blest
Tuesday, May 02, 2006
My bike… My ride… My learning
I have got a Honda Unicorn. It’s pretty new and has clocked just 1768.6 kms. I planned to go for a long trip from Chennai to Bangalore. It is approximately 325 kms.
At first, I was bit scared of thinking about the massive 325 kms long and the speed of the other vehicles. From my childhood, when I used to ride bicycle, I would be scared when someone overtakes me at a greater speed than that of mine. Because sometime, no mistake of mine, I will be put in trouble.
Today, I was at good speed and overtaking others. And to my surprise, when I start overtaking others, I felt confident as if I had the control over the road. It thought me to Keep myself at speed than others and assume the control. It was not long before I learnt that I should not over speed too much to loose the control of the vehicle. In fact, at one point where there was a deep curve, I was almost striking 100 but couldn’t help much, I need to reduce to 60, and else probably I would have lost the control and skidded. No matter, the road may be under my control, it becomes useless unless the vehicle is under my control. When the same logic is applied to business or job, we have to be bit faster than the competitors to take control of it and we should not over speed ourselves to loose control on ourselves. When we over speed ourselves, we tend to loose the sane applicability of mind.
After traveling for twenty minutes, I have covered ten kilometers from my house and hit the main road and was happy as I have covered 1/35th of the distance. As I traveled further, simple math told me that to make it 1/30th from 1/35th would require just 2.3 kilometers but to reach 1/25th it would take another 3.5 kilometers and to cover 1/4th of the distance it would take another 70 kilometers and as I subtract the numeral in the denominator, the distance increases in a geometric progression. There is no wonder in it, are there? Are you wondering why I was saying this? I applied this to normal business or job. Keeping the total competitors at constant, to become one amongst thirty people it may take only 2.3 units of time and energy while to become one amongst twenty five people it may take 3.5 units of time and energy and so forth to become one amongst four it may take 70 units of time and energy. In order to climb the career ladder, one has to spend time and energy in geographic progression, by taking more responsibilities to deliver more.
Though the climate was good and the traffic was less, after forty five minutes of ride, I felt bit uncomfortable. I need some break. I scolded myself for getting tired so soon. I cursed my willpower and to satisfy my ego, I pushed for another quarter of an hour. I decided to take break once an hour. I took five such breaks. And I used those breaks to have some tea, have breakfast, call back my home to convey them that I am safe and where I am, to pay the tax etc. when once I started again after the break I felt bit comfortable and it helped me to ride happily with full concentration. This obviously says that one in job or business needs to take proper break to keep one self rejuvenated. And a break is not necessarily to keep oneself idle. But to use the time to do something else which will also be relaxing.
While taking breaks I removed my helmet and kept it in some place and was having some tea or some refreshment. Then I put on my helmet and started riding the bike. After few minutes, when my speedometer showed that I am at ninety plus. I felt a small disturbance and I could not concentrate on my riding. There was absolutely no problem in my bike but it was from a small insect in my helmet. I have to obviously stop the bike to remove it. But after few minutes, I found another, this time, I dint stop the bike but just lifted the viewer glass in my helmet and allowed the speed wind to blow off the insect. Can you guess, it even thought me a lesson? Again when I equated this to a situation I business or job, I could see something to learn. When ever someone takes an off from routine, do check his belongings before they are put to use. And never mind the size which creates the problem; mind the size of the problem that is created. It may be a small issue at some loose ends. But when not taken care at proper time, it may end up disastrous.
The natural scenery was excellent and I cursed myself in not bringing the camera with me. The roads were covered with flower bearing plants and few plants did bear beautiful flowers. Butterflies were flying across the roads. One such beautiful butterfly do came to say hi to me and was sitting right on my view finder in the helmet and obstructing the view ahead. That warned me, how so ever beautiful it is, it also lead me to loose my view. Beautiful women are beautiful butterflies, without their knowledge, they would obstruct the goal ahead. Now don’t call me a MCP as you are aware for any normal man a beautiful women are always a distraction. You can blame men for that. Blame the nature.
This was the first time I rode between Chennai and Bangalore myself. Though I have traveled in bus in the same route, I always traveled in night and half the time I was asleep and hence was not confident about the route. And I was also not having any map with me. So I didn’t miss any of the signboards which directed me to the destination. And that made me to learn the various places and the distance of various destinations, the emergency numbers, the toll charges etc. One at business always needs to open his eyes and ears to know where he is leading and in the meanwhile he should also know the various other destinations.
Would you believe I got few friends while I was riding the bike? Few of them overtook me. I overtook few of them. I could recollect the car which overtook me, while I overtook them. And couple of them recognized me when I was having my breakfast at a motel. One would always be recognized by others when they overtake or being overtaken. Furthering my travel, I found many of my companions were missing and I was traveling alone. In fact, there were no signboards for almost twenty kilo meters, so I slowed down a bit to see if some of them overtake me. But to my dismay, I found none. Then I came to know, they have taken an alternative route, which I was not aware. Always be aware of alternatives was the lesson I inferred from it.
As I said earlier, that I was bit scared when someone overtakes me at a greater speed, few of the cars just zoomed and made my heart to thud fast. This happens when I dint recognize that it’s going to overtake me. Why dint I recognize that some one is going to overtake me? That was because I failed to look at the mirror at regular intervals. However fast I am, however ahead I am of others, I always need to look back on the way I have come, and should always have a watchful eye on my competitor was the lesson it thought me.
It was a jolly ride and an excellent experience. I recollect a dialogue from a character Theo Buchan from the novel ‘Another Woman’ saying ‘Flying is the best physical pleasure on earth next only to sex’. Though I have not experienced both, I would safely replace ‘flying’ with ‘riding’.
At first, I was bit scared of thinking about the massive 325 kms long and the speed of the other vehicles. From my childhood, when I used to ride bicycle, I would be scared when someone overtakes me at a greater speed than that of mine. Because sometime, no mistake of mine, I will be put in trouble.
Today, I was at good speed and overtaking others. And to my surprise, when I start overtaking others, I felt confident as if I had the control over the road. It thought me to Keep myself at speed than others and assume the control. It was not long before I learnt that I should not over speed too much to loose the control of the vehicle. In fact, at one point where there was a deep curve, I was almost striking 100 but couldn’t help much, I need to reduce to 60, and else probably I would have lost the control and skidded. No matter, the road may be under my control, it becomes useless unless the vehicle is under my control. When the same logic is applied to business or job, we have to be bit faster than the competitors to take control of it and we should not over speed ourselves to loose control on ourselves. When we over speed ourselves, we tend to loose the sane applicability of mind.
After traveling for twenty minutes, I have covered ten kilometers from my house and hit the main road and was happy as I have covered 1/35th of the distance. As I traveled further, simple math told me that to make it 1/30th from 1/35th would require just 2.3 kilometers but to reach 1/25th it would take another 3.5 kilometers and to cover 1/4th of the distance it would take another 70 kilometers and as I subtract the numeral in the denominator, the distance increases in a geometric progression. There is no wonder in it, are there? Are you wondering why I was saying this? I applied this to normal business or job. Keeping the total competitors at constant, to become one amongst thirty people it may take only 2.3 units of time and energy while to become one amongst twenty five people it may take 3.5 units of time and energy and so forth to become one amongst four it may take 70 units of time and energy. In order to climb the career ladder, one has to spend time and energy in geographic progression, by taking more responsibilities to deliver more.
Though the climate was good and the traffic was less, after forty five minutes of ride, I felt bit uncomfortable. I need some break. I scolded myself for getting tired so soon. I cursed my willpower and to satisfy my ego, I pushed for another quarter of an hour. I decided to take break once an hour. I took five such breaks. And I used those breaks to have some tea, have breakfast, call back my home to convey them that I am safe and where I am, to pay the tax etc. when once I started again after the break I felt bit comfortable and it helped me to ride happily with full concentration. This obviously says that one in job or business needs to take proper break to keep one self rejuvenated. And a break is not necessarily to keep oneself idle. But to use the time to do something else which will also be relaxing.
While taking breaks I removed my helmet and kept it in some place and was having some tea or some refreshment. Then I put on my helmet and started riding the bike. After few minutes, when my speedometer showed that I am at ninety plus. I felt a small disturbance and I could not concentrate on my riding. There was absolutely no problem in my bike but it was from a small insect in my helmet. I have to obviously stop the bike to remove it. But after few minutes, I found another, this time, I dint stop the bike but just lifted the viewer glass in my helmet and allowed the speed wind to blow off the insect. Can you guess, it even thought me a lesson? Again when I equated this to a situation I business or job, I could see something to learn. When ever someone takes an off from routine, do check his belongings before they are put to use. And never mind the size which creates the problem; mind the size of the problem that is created. It may be a small issue at some loose ends. But when not taken care at proper time, it may end up disastrous.
The natural scenery was excellent and I cursed myself in not bringing the camera with me. The roads were covered with flower bearing plants and few plants did bear beautiful flowers. Butterflies were flying across the roads. One such beautiful butterfly do came to say hi to me and was sitting right on my view finder in the helmet and obstructing the view ahead. That warned me, how so ever beautiful it is, it also lead me to loose my view. Beautiful women are beautiful butterflies, without their knowledge, they would obstruct the goal ahead. Now don’t call me a MCP as you are aware for any normal man a beautiful women are always a distraction. You can blame men for that. Blame the nature.
This was the first time I rode between Chennai and Bangalore myself. Though I have traveled in bus in the same route, I always traveled in night and half the time I was asleep and hence was not confident about the route. And I was also not having any map with me. So I didn’t miss any of the signboards which directed me to the destination. And that made me to learn the various places and the distance of various destinations, the emergency numbers, the toll charges etc. One at business always needs to open his eyes and ears to know where he is leading and in the meanwhile he should also know the various other destinations.
Would you believe I got few friends while I was riding the bike? Few of them overtook me. I overtook few of them. I could recollect the car which overtook me, while I overtook them. And couple of them recognized me when I was having my breakfast at a motel. One would always be recognized by others when they overtake or being overtaken. Furthering my travel, I found many of my companions were missing and I was traveling alone. In fact, there were no signboards for almost twenty kilo meters, so I slowed down a bit to see if some of them overtake me. But to my dismay, I found none. Then I came to know, they have taken an alternative route, which I was not aware. Always be aware of alternatives was the lesson I inferred from it.
As I said earlier, that I was bit scared when someone overtakes me at a greater speed, few of the cars just zoomed and made my heart to thud fast. This happens when I dint recognize that it’s going to overtake me. Why dint I recognize that some one is going to overtake me? That was because I failed to look at the mirror at regular intervals. However fast I am, however ahead I am of others, I always need to look back on the way I have come, and should always have a watchful eye on my competitor was the lesson it thought me.
It was a jolly ride and an excellent experience. I recollect a dialogue from a character Theo Buchan from the novel ‘Another Woman’ saying ‘Flying is the best physical pleasure on earth next only to sex’. Though I have not experienced both, I would safely replace ‘flying’ with ‘riding’.
Sunday, March 05, 2006
Film: Dishyum & some similarities
Film: Dishyum; It’s a simple story but affected me. Few things said in the film holds good to me in my personal life. The hero of the film would fall in love with the heroine (obviously without which the tamizh film industry can’t make a film). The heroine is just a freaky girl will be easily going with any of the boys but wont fall in the trap of love.
Similar to me the hero is straight forward guy (sorry that’s the fact, I am not blowing my own trumpet. I know few of my friends would jump as NTPK. I can hear them now even before they could read this blog :P). The hero does not wish to declare the heroine as friend when he has already knows that he has some crush or love interest. I too had some one in recent past, where I dint wish to add some one as my friend, but added her as ‘interested’ in crush list. But the fate is only if she too adds my name in crush list, each other can view our interest. I don’t deny the existence of friendship growing into love/crush. But I strongly feel, when I know for sure that I had an interest in a girl, I would never take shelter in the name of friendship and then declare love.
Few of the dialogues were bit catchy and to an extent they were true to some. Now don’t get confused with the girl I spoke before with the dialogues. There is absolutely no link to the character of the girl in the film and in my life. It’s just the concept that the hero carried in the film made an impact.
Some notable dialogues (I don’t remember the exact wordings but its something similar)
A small intro to the story for those who have not seen the movie… The hero is a stunt master in film industry and is known for taking high risk. He attempts to help his friend with normal stuff to create a good image to buildup an image before his girl (the heroine). The heroine finds the truth and somehow she develops a friendship with the hero. The hero finds that heroine takes care of him, and since he has not experienced such care, he asks if she would marry him. She denies. Both continue to be friends after a small tussle, but the hero couldn’t concentrate in his job. He understands his love towards her but thinks if he marries someone else, he can forget this girl and start concentrating in his job. Now the heroine declares that “If the love that has blossomed in you also blossoms in me, I would not care about anything but would marry you”. I strongly believe in that concept. Even if I propose, I would wait until the girl also has such a feeling on me. It would be same when some one proposes me. (Again I hear my friend shouting NTPK: P). Back to the movie…. The hero wish to wait until such a thing happens to the heroine. Meanwhile the heroine’s father gets to know the love affair the hero has over his daughter. Hold on…, the heroine’s father is a nice man and not a villain. When heroine’s father asks the heroine that if she too loves the hero, the heroine vacillate in her decision. The heroine says that she could accept the hero as he is when she thinks him as a friend but she could not accept him as such when she thinks as a life partner as she has lot of dreams about her Man. The heroine’s father smiles and says, these days girls doesn’t look at the heart but they get fooled by the perceptible things or they only want that. They want the guy to be modern with the latest gadget and a wealthy guy. At the end when the heroine is set to marry another guy, and when the heroine has a feeling to see the hero, the other guy would say that he doesn’t mind her seeing the hero before marriage but would take her to speak in lone. There he would ask her if she is/was in love with him. And after little conversation, he would say, It’s true that guys take advantage in the name of friendship express his love to her. In the same way girls take advantage in the name of friendship to express their disinterest. Which I feel is true to an extent.
Hey I can hear you asking (Again NTPK)… what happened to the person whom I added in crush list… she got engaged with a guy… thanks to bronze (bronze is my friend. I give nick names with some idiotic logic, I give some wildest nickname, to name a few, Pepsi, close-up, gold flake, 151, 100, street cat, dip tea, visual basic etc…) for saying me the info that the girl is getting engaged… before I could develop anything. I added her as my friend after that for all practical reasons.
Similar to me the hero is straight forward guy (sorry that’s the fact, I am not blowing my own trumpet. I know few of my friends would jump as NTPK. I can hear them now even before they could read this blog :P). The hero does not wish to declare the heroine as friend when he has already knows that he has some crush or love interest. I too had some one in recent past, where I dint wish to add some one as my friend, but added her as ‘interested’ in crush list. But the fate is only if she too adds my name in crush list, each other can view our interest. I don’t deny the existence of friendship growing into love/crush. But I strongly feel, when I know for sure that I had an interest in a girl, I would never take shelter in the name of friendship and then declare love.
Few of the dialogues were bit catchy and to an extent they were true to some. Now don’t get confused with the girl I spoke before with the dialogues. There is absolutely no link to the character of the girl in the film and in my life. It’s just the concept that the hero carried in the film made an impact.
Some notable dialogues (I don’t remember the exact wordings but its something similar)
A small intro to the story for those who have not seen the movie… The hero is a stunt master in film industry and is known for taking high risk. He attempts to help his friend with normal stuff to create a good image to buildup an image before his girl (the heroine). The heroine finds the truth and somehow she develops a friendship with the hero. The hero finds that heroine takes care of him, and since he has not experienced such care, he asks if she would marry him. She denies. Both continue to be friends after a small tussle, but the hero couldn’t concentrate in his job. He understands his love towards her but thinks if he marries someone else, he can forget this girl and start concentrating in his job. Now the heroine declares that “If the love that has blossomed in you also blossoms in me, I would not care about anything but would marry you”. I strongly believe in that concept. Even if I propose, I would wait until the girl also has such a feeling on me. It would be same when some one proposes me. (Again I hear my friend shouting NTPK: P). Back to the movie…. The hero wish to wait until such a thing happens to the heroine. Meanwhile the heroine’s father gets to know the love affair the hero has over his daughter. Hold on…, the heroine’s father is a nice man and not a villain. When heroine’s father asks the heroine that if she too loves the hero, the heroine vacillate in her decision. The heroine says that she could accept the hero as he is when she thinks him as a friend but she could not accept him as such when she thinks as a life partner as she has lot of dreams about her Man. The heroine’s father smiles and says, these days girls doesn’t look at the heart but they get fooled by the perceptible things or they only want that. They want the guy to be modern with the latest gadget and a wealthy guy. At the end when the heroine is set to marry another guy, and when the heroine has a feeling to see the hero, the other guy would say that he doesn’t mind her seeing the hero before marriage but would take her to speak in lone. There he would ask her if she is/was in love with him. And after little conversation, he would say, It’s true that guys take advantage in the name of friendship express his love to her. In the same way girls take advantage in the name of friendship to express their disinterest. Which I feel is true to an extent.
Hey I can hear you asking (Again NTPK)… what happened to the person whom I added in crush list… she got engaged with a guy… thanks to bronze (bronze is my friend. I give nick names with some idiotic logic, I give some wildest nickname, to name a few, Pepsi, close-up, gold flake, 151, 100, street cat, dip tea, visual basic etc…) for saying me the info that the girl is getting engaged… before I could develop anything. I added her as my friend after that for all practical reasons.
Monday, January 30, 2006
Choose your Ruler
The discerning man straightens his mind, which is fickle and unsteady, difficult to guard and restrain, as the skilled Fletcher straightens the shaft (of the arrow).
That is from Dharmmapada, a buddhist work.
Our mind is primarily divided into Conscious Mind and Subconscious Mind. Conscious Mind is divided into Ruler Mind and Servant Mind, The Ruler is again divided into Logical Ruler and Illogical Ruler. We (servant) do any thing based on the command that we receive from the Ruler mind. The servant shuffles between the logical ruler and illogical ruler. That which give temporary pleasure (e.g. addiction to drugs, having sex, laziness, greed, jealous, taste, anger, ego etc.) are mostly dominated by illogical ruler. And the rest are controlled by logical ruler.
Subconscious mind apart form the programmed activities such as breathing, digestion etc, observes the activities of conscious mind and follows it when the conscious mind is not active or at rest.
If we (Servant) train ourselves to follow the heart (illogical mind), we don’t tend to do things in a disciplined way. But, the logical mind commands us to follow the disciplined way. The Logical ruler should be in command so that the illogical ruler would be dormant and the servant mind follows what the logical ruler commands. And thus Straightening the mind would be making the logical ruler in command and bringing the illogical mind in control.
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