Accept me as I am

If you accept me for what I am, I shall marry you... else forget it…the she says to the he and for the he, the phrase is bewildering.

“Accept me as I am” is a commonly uttered phrase from most of the single women of these days when something is discussed about matrimony. I wanted to understand what this phrase means to them and so I enquired some of my friends who happen to utter this phrase.

“I am not willing to change myself for the sake of some unknown person who happens to be my spouse”.“Why should I change, why not he change as per my way of life?”“I have been brought up like this for past x years and so I can’t”“I will not allow the man to be chauvinistic, and I would prove what women power is; after all if he wants something from me, then it is given only in my way”
What an interesting response, interesting perceptions, interesting way of thinking? Of course, few of them said it for the heck of it has it became a kind of fashion statement. To all of them my reply was just “oh good!”
How oxymoron is the phrase when this is expected out of a marriage?

Are they searching for someone who can be a really better half? I am worried; they shouldn’t finally convert the would-be-better-half to a bitter-half.

If she is brought up for past x years like that, so is he. If she doesn’t want to change for the sake of some unknown person who happens to be her spouse, so is he. And finally, marriage isn’t a trade that she sells something and expects something in return!!!

Should someone shout so loudly that marriages is best of compromises to become best of compliments?

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